About Bob Stains

For the past 19 years, Bob has been active in the Public Conversations Project’s work of creating constructive conversations on issues of sexual orientation, religion, abortion, gender, social class, race and other divisive issues. He trains other senior practitioners in the Public Conversations approach and provides consultation to academic, civic and religious leaders. He also consults to the Interpersonal Skills Component of the Harvard Negotiation Project at Harvard Law School, sits on the Executive Board of The Democracy Imperative, served as faculty at The Family Institute of Cambridge and as a Guest Scholar Practitioner for the Dialogue, Deliberation and Public Engagement Program at Fielding Graduate University in Santa Barbara, CA. Bob has focused extensively on communities of faith, working to transform conflict locally within congregations and inter-faith groups, nationally within the Episcopal Church House of Bishops and internationally with the Anglican Communion. Prior to Public Conversations, he consulted to and trained therapists, clergy and "natural helpers" for 15 years, served as the Administrative Supervisor of a Clinical Pastoral Education program and was, for seven years, the clinical consultant to its Advanced Pastoral Counseling Practicum. He also maintains a private mediation, training and consulting practice in Danvers, MA.

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Preparing to Connect

When I think about things I’ve said in my life that I regret, I notice some common threads. First, these regrettable utterances almost always arise from some kind of conflict over something I care about. The more intensely I care, the higher the conversational stakes, the more likely it is I’ll say something I regret. [...]

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